Why am I doing this?
Barrelling off the wheels of a tenuous six year relationship that ended in a short, embarassing, six month marriage — the last thing I wanted to do was throw my hat into the dating ring again. Despite the prospect of meeting a variety of women and living the hidden dream of most deeply committed men, I can say with a great deal of sincerity that this lifestyle does not suit me. I am not much of a swinger, serial dater, playboy - and never really will be.
To be frank, dating sucks. Dating seems to accentuate the art of being dishonest. While I don’t really want to generalize, I can say with confidence that a great deal of people, when dating, seem to conjure up their hidden public relations persona to represent their true selves. Getting past all those layers until you meet the real whoever is a pain in the ass. Yes, it could be all fun and exciting, but I am not in my 20s anymore. I am in my early 30s and at my age, I seek some straightforward sincerity and would love to cut the bullshit pretense out of my life. Am I naive to expect this? Perhaps.
Bottom line is, it sucks to start all over again. It sucks having to go through the seemingly endless posturing in both meeting random strangers and even trying things like internet dating.
I refuse to be the cliché “Sex and the City” stingy whiner that goes on about whether there are good people out there. I KNOW they are out there. It’s just a matter of finding them without losing your mind in the process. And, I am generally someone who does not like to talk about his personal life, publicly. In the wake of all this madness, I chose to chronicle my ‘adventures’ anonymously in hopes of receiving some kind of feedback or even noticing my own missteps through patterns I may be overlooking.
Wish these ladies luck, They’ll need it . . .
Regards,
Brownstone Cool
(yeah, that’s my pimp name)
“Dating seems to accentuate the art of being dishonest.”
Beautifully stated. I couldn’t agree more.
Mr. Brownstone, you will meet someone cool when you least expect it, it always works out that way.
Pins - You also get divorced when you least expect it. It’s a tired cliché sorry to say. But I respect that. You also shouldn’t be complacent about stuff. Take more chances, be more pro-active - that is the way I am going about business.
“…it sucks to start all over again. It sucks having to go through the seemingly endless posturing in both meeting random strangers and even trying things like internet dating.”
AMEN!!
“…act like wherever you are, that’s the place to be. ‘Isn’t this great?’…”
–Fast Times at Ridgemont High
As trite and superficial as this movie may be, I believe this quote rings true.
And what is with this “Sex in the City” rush to get hooked up again?
I see that you did say, “Take more chances. Be more Pro-active.” So you’re clearly on the right track. But perhaps, this blog is method of counting your steps until you reach the finish line. I’m excited to see where this leads to.
Lucy Dee — I am in my early 30s. I know this is “young” for a man, but realistically speaking, I don’t want to look like grandpa to my future child/children. While I am in no rush to get married again or even have children at this point of my life, I know how long it takes to get to that plateau in a relationship. The longer I wait or take time off, the closer I get to senior-citizenship.